An Unguarded Moment

2 Samuel 11 & 12

Intro: If you were to ask most people to name an event in the life of David there are 2 events that immediately come to most minds

A)One is his Heroic Victory over the Philistine Giant – Goliath which occurred almost 15 yrs before he became King over Israel

B) The other event that comes to people’s minds – is David’s sin of Adultery w/ BATHSHEBA – which occurred after he had been king for 20 yrs

C) The First was a high point in David’s celebrated life – It was a bold symbol of his Faith in God & love for God – Dependency upon the Lord

  1. The 2nd is a horrible reminder of how Far someone can fall – how easy it can be to give into to temptation.

D) The first could have been the DEFINING MARK of Israel’s greatest King –

  1. a great testimony to any unbeliever – of the Power of God working in the life of one who trust completely in the Lord

E) But instead the 2nd would be the Stain upon his life/ the thing he would be remembered the most for/ even 4,000 yrs later

1) Especially by those who Choose not to serve God

F) It is sad this would be the lasting mark of David’s Legacy in the eyes of many – one night / one UNGUARDED moment of pleasure that would be –followed by Yrs of Pain - that too often is the Legacy of Sin

Tonight I want us to consider this story that we are all familiar w/ to a certain degree – but it is a Story that we can learn a lot from

A)As we consider this story I want us to view it in 6 Acts – like a Play

B)Act 1 The Conduct- The Sin Act 2 The Cover up / Act 3 The Conviction / Act 4 The Confrontation / Act 5 The Confession – Grace is extended /

Act 6 The Consequences /

Begin by setting the scene: David is now around 50 yrs old (Never too old) – he has been the King of Israel for almost 20yrs

A) He has distinguished himself as a man of God / a composer of Beautiful Psalms / a Kind & Caring Shepherd – first of sheep now of God’s people

B) He has been a Valiant Warrior / but also a man of Compassion – saw in our last study – his kindness to Meph.

  1. Israel has Flourished under his leadership – Many military Victories

They enlarged their boundaries 60,000 sq. miles under his leadership

C) David’s approval rating would have been a strong 95-100%

  1. And personally the King was doing well – Nice new home / Rich / the people like him – everything seemed Perfect

D) But this picture of David’s life should be a reminder to us that we never arrive – never reach a place where – beyond temptation

1) And in reality David had set himself up for this Horrible Fall

ACT I the Conduct that led to David’s Failure: note 4 things

A) #1 David’s area of Compromise: 2 Samuel 5:13 And David took more concubines and wives from Jerusalem, after he had come from Hebron. Also more sons and daughters were born to David.

B) Although this was the common practice of the Kings of other nations / it was something God had forbidden for the kings of Israel

1) 3 Things they were forbidden to Multiply

Duet.17: 16But he shall not multiply horses for himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt to multiply horses, for the LORD has said to you, ‘You shall not return that way again.’ 17Neither shall he multiply wives for himself, lest his heart turn away; nor shall he greatly multiply silver and gold for himself.

C) It has been said that there are 3 things that can bring a man down –1st Money – Love of money is the root of all evil

2nd PowerPride that comes from being in positions of Power

3rd Women – Lust {God’s Design – One wife / one Husband - ENOUGH

That is what these 3 things represent – Horses speaks of Power – in those days an army was judged by the size of its horses & Chariots

A) God didn’t want the Israel kings to stockpile horses & Chariots because he wanted their dependency to be upon him & not those things

B) God didn’t want the kings to stock pile gold & Silver so that they would continue to look to him as their Supplier

C) God didn’t want the Kings to Multiply wives for themselves – because he had instituted marriage as a Union between – one man & one woman

Now what is interesting about David is he didn’t multiply horses

A) 2 Sam. 8 we saw that after a great victory he slew the horses

B) And David didn’t multiply silver & gold/ 2 Samuel 8 again saw after the Battle he took the silver & gold & dedicated it for the Construction of temple

  1. But David must have thought that 2 out of 3 isn’t Bad – because when it came to women – David had many

C) And because David ignored this command of the Lord he had a wandering eye {where his problem begins

Job declared Ch.31:1 "I have made a covenant with my eyes; Why then should I look upon a young woman?

A) Every man & woman should make such a Covenant – not look upon another person of opposite sex – in lustful way

B) When a person makes such a Covenant & something or someone is thrust in their face – Their immediate reaction is to turn away

  1. Focus on something else

C) But if a man doesn’t make such a Covenant w/ his eyes – he will be much more prone to fall in this area / to flirt w/ temptation rather than Flee

D) That was David’s problem – he had no such Covenant w/ his eyes & because he was multiplying wives & Concubines

  1. Every woman was a Potential target of his affections

E) So the first thing that we see in David’s conduct that led to his fall was he had no Covenant w/ his eyes –

1) Which resulted in his Ignoring God’s Command against multiplying wives

#2 David was not in the Battle RD Ch.11:1-5

A) In that part of the world, wars were not normally fought during the winter months because rains and cold weather

B) The winter conditions made travel and campaigning difficult. So In the spring, fighting would resume

  1. So it was time for Kings to go out to war but David stays home / this was a time when David should have been fighting – instead taking a break

Bb) His thinking probably went something like this, "I have fought my battles, I have won my victories, I have been warrior from my youth up, it’s time for someone else to take my place.

1) There are more important things for the king to do."

C) We can make that same mistake spiritually – we can try to take a break from the Spiritual battle we are in {go on vacation from fighting}

  1. Problem is our enemy the devil never goes on vacation / he never takes a break / he is relentless in his attack

See this left David hanging around the Palace with nothing to do.

A) And you have heard the old proverb, Idol hands, are what? The devil’s workshop.

B) Another way to put this is Idol minds, are the devils canvas.

1) And that is absolutely true, too much free time, allows temptation to come in and set up shop.

C) When the Devil can isolate us, when he can cut us off from what we should be doing, he has got us right where he wants us.

Something we need to understand is that our most VULNERABLE times are not when things are going hard

A) Hard times create dependent people/ hard times cause us to pray & seek the Lord –

B) You don’t get proud when you are dependent on the Lord Survival keeps you humble

  1. But Pride happens when everything is going well / when life seems easy

C) We are not the most Vulnerable when we are working hard or hard at battle / but when we have some leisure / got time on our hands

D) But it wasn’t just isolation and idleness that was problem, the problem was that David had been cut off from what God had called him to do.

1) God had called David into the battle, He had called him to be a warrior.

E) He hadn’t designed David to watch from the sideline, he needed to be in there mixing it up.

1) When David was in the battle, he was trusting God, he was seeking God for His plan and strategy, he was using his gifts in the power of the HS

F) When all that was going on, there was no room for temptation, there was no room for sin.

Watch how the Devil sets David up for this Fall v.2 Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold.

A) Notice it was evening time - & David was in bed – but he couldn’t sleep so arose from his bed – took a stroll on rooftop patio {Houses

B) The temptation is put in his way – I don’t think David was looking for a woman taking a bath – he was getting some fresh air

  1. Warning – what you do when you can’t sleep can be very dangerous

C) Where do you go – TV – the devil will allow you to see something you shouldn’t – that is the BAIT

  1. Go to the computer – that has been the down fall of many in man & women in the middle of the night – Man Porn / Woman Chat room

D) Satan is smart he knows that men are designed to be stimulated visually so guys he constantly throws things in our path – to tempt us

  1. He knows that w/ women it starts in the heart – the longing for attention for companionship – Chat room – starting point

E) The secret sin that causes her to begin to fantasize about a relationship that goes beyond that of her husband – happens all the time

  1. So often it starts by a decision that is made in the middle of the night when one can’t sleep { Pray / read / seek the Lord }

So David can’t sleep – he takes a stroll sees Bathsheba

A) The Bible does a really good job of setting this up for us. It tells us that she was very beautiful to behold.

B) The Bible doesn’t pull any punches, when it says that someone is beautiful, they are beautiful,

1) When it says that someone is VERY beautiful, they are an absolute knock out.

C) So here is this absolute knock out bathing right in David’s line of sight. 1) Now David has a choice here, he can see this and turn away, or he can see it and dwell on it.

D) To put this into the language of temptation, Bath Sheba was the bait, David would either see the bait for what it was and flee, or he would be mesmerized by the bait and start to go after it.

But David’s sin was not in seeing Bathsheba but in choosing to look after the initial sight came before his eyes/ the 2nd look

A) Behold means to take a good long look – to Gaze longing at something

James shares some insight on this James 1:12-15

Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.13 Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone.

14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

B) Enticed = being caught in a lure or a baited hook!

C) If you are a fisherman, you know exactly what this is talking about.

1) When you fish, you figure out the bait that the fish that you are going after really likes/ then you figure out how to take that bait and hide a hook in it.

D) Then you drag that bait in front of your prey, knowing that if they catch wind of it, they will not be able to resist it and they will bite.

1) When they do, you have got them.

E) That is what Satan has done here with David, he knows that this is David’s weak point, he knows that this is the bait that David can’t refuse,

1) so he dangles it right in front of his face.

Satan knows there are things that we can be enticed by:

A) Lev 11 – Stay away from eating pelicans / and Bats – NO PROBLEM

B) But there are other things – totally get my attention: Stay on guard – watch out – Need to run at the first sight of!

C) A little side note & word to the women – Bathsheba is not totally innocent here / she was careless & foolish

  1. She was lacking in the usual Hebrew modesty or she would not have washed in a place where she could be looked upon

D) We live in an age where there is a constant bombardment toward sensuality in the media -

  1. And Christian ladies You need to be an answer to the problem not a part of it !!!

D) You ladies need to guard your hearts from getting swept up in the looseness of the Fashions of our age

  1. Watch what you wear – not revealing / not drawing attention to yourself / lest someone else is tempted by your conduct


#3 David didn’t heed the warning of his servant v.3 Who is she?

Bathsheba the daughter of Eliam/ (Common ) adds the wife of Uriah

A) Here is what I have always found, the road to sin is always marked with stop signs and warning signs and off ramps.

B) When someone tells me that they got sucked into sin and never saw it coming, I will always challenge them on that.

1) "So there were no warning signals, no checks in your spirit, no surprise visits by people who warned you that you were going to the wrong way,

2) no Holy Spirit gut checks that told you that this was sin?"

C) See I know that there were more then a few things, because I know the Holy Spirit, He is going to be faithful, in some very creative ways to warn us about sin.

D) That is what He does here with David by way of his servants, their response to David was not just information, it was a warning, listen carefully.

"David, this is Bath Sheba, the daughter of Eliam"

A) Stop right there, Beth Sheba was the grand daughter of David’s most trusted advisor, Ahithophel, Eliam was his son.

B) This in itself should have been warning enough for David to stay away. David, this woman is almost part of your family.

1) But they go on, "the wife" David’s she’s married.

C) This should have stopped David in his tracks, this was a married woman, this was the wife of another man, the Law that David loved was so clear on this, this was not a gray area.

1) This was a woman who was out of bounds.

D) And not just married, but David, she is married to Uriah the Hittite.

1) Uriah was One of David’s mighty men, one of the men who was out doing what David should have been doing.

E) This message from his servants had, "don’t go there" written all over it. God was faithful to warn David of his folly.

1) And he could have right here, repented in his heart and been done with it, this was a way out.


Listen: when Satan is trying to set us up for a fall – God will always give us a way of Escape – if we take it {Candy bar machine – being invested

A) 1 Cor.10:13,14 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. 14 Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry.

B) At that moment as soon as his servant said she was a married woman David should have fled – {He didn’t take the way of escape

C) David instructs his servants, bring her to me. – They had relations / she became Pregnant - Now what would David do? -

Act 2 The Cover Up 2 Sam.11: 6-10

A) David had two Choices at this moment – he could confess & repent or he could seek to cover up his Sin – He chose the latter{Summarize

B) David calls for Uriah/ report on – How is the battle going – sends him home hoping he will have relation’s w/ his wife –

  1. Uriah wouldn’t go slept w/ the servants –

C) Listen to Uriah’s reply, verse 11 And Uriah said to David, "The ark and Israel and Judah are dwelling in tents, and my lord Joab and the servants of my lord are encamped in the open fields. Shall I then go to my house to eat and drink, and to lie with my wife? As you live, and as your soul lives, I will not do this thing."

A man with convictions and standards can really be a bummer, to those trying to cover up or get away with sin!

A) this must have stabbed David in the heart. What do you think that David thought about when he heard these words from Uriah?

B) I wonder if he thought: "I used to be like that, I used to stick with my convictions, I used to live my life according to godly standards, that used to be me"

C) This is another problem with sin, sin moves us away from being the person that we know that we are in Christ, and it turns us into the person that we never wanted to be.

Conscience is seared with a hot iron

Now again, David could have repented right here.

A) He could have heard these righteous words, he could have come under the conviction of the Spirit, and turned from his wicked deeds.

B) But he didn’t, he launched right into plan B. Plan B was to get Uriah drunk, maybe a drunk Uriah would have lower standards & less convictions.

C) This tells you something about alcohol and drugs doesn’t it? Alcohol and drugs lower our standards, they cancel out our convictions,

1) they throw the door wide open for sin to come in. That’s why David wants Uriah to go there. RD V. 12-25

D) So David tries again next night by getting Uriah drunk – but he still doesn’t go home –

E) So David writes a letter instructing his General Joab to put Uriah on the front lines of the battle in the fiercest part & then pull back

  1. Letter was sealed & given to Uriah to carry back to Joab

F) I wonder what Joab thought when he read that – David had been such a godly example – why would he do such a thing

1) Joab was loyal to David – loyal to a fault – never questioning


So David in his attempt to cover up his sin had Uriah killed and we are told in v.17 that some of David’s other men died too {Murdered

A) This is another effect of sin, with sin there is always collateral damage. You know what collateral damage is, don’t you?

B) It’s when innocent people are killed or hurt in the process of taking care of a real problem.

1) You get the bad the guy, but innocent people are hurt in the process. This is what will always happen with sin.

C) There will always be innocent people who will be hurt by it.


When news comes back to Jerusalem – Bathsheba mourns & then David plays the hero in the eyes of the people – Weds the poor Widow

A) Cover up Complete – Everything seemed fine – Very few knew of David’s sin – But the Problem was David – Knew & God Knew!!!

Act 3 The Conviction Psa. 32

A)It was there in Psa 32 that David revealed what was going on in his heart at the time

Psalm 32:3,4 When I kept silent, my bones grew old Through my groaning all the day long.4For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me;

My vitality was turned into the drought of summer.

NLT When I refused to confess my sin, I was weak and miserable, & I groaned all day long. Day & night your hand of discipline was heavy on me.

My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat.

B) David is plagued by the guilt of his sin & he can’t escape it – for 9 long months he is living in agony

  1. Time of great drought spiritually – One puritan commentator put it this way – "All the moisture of heaven had lapsed into drought Everything was dry & barren in his soul"

C) That is the problem w/ unconfessed sin – it takes the life / the Vitality right out of You

  1. David’s secret sin was killing him / Whom the Lord loves He chastens & he wasn’t going to let David rest until this was dealt w/


Act 4 The Confrontation Rd 2 Sam. 12:1-7 {Summarize Story

A)Notice David’s reaction v.5 surely dieOver reaction big time / sign of his Guilt / The law stated that restitution 10 fold was in order – not death

B) Good illustration of how prone we are to come down harder on those who are guilty of doing the same sins we are struggling w/

C) That is what David is doing here until he hears Nathan say:

YOU ARE THE MAN !!!!! David is suddenly face to face w/ his sin!!!


Act 5 The Confession 2 Sam.12:13

A)It is here after 9 months that David finally confesses his sin & you know what – God forgave him instantly

Psa 51:1 Have mercy upon me, O God, According to Your lovingkindness; According to the multitude of Your tender mercies, Blot out my transgressions.2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. 3 For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. 4 Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight

B) David saw his sin w/ the right perception – Against God first & foremost

1) David was a head of his time in asking for mercy – a whole another study

C) In Psa 32 David talks about the Blessing of being forgiven

Psalm 32:1-5 Blessed (Oh HOW HAPPY) is he whose transgression is forgiven, Whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man to whom the LORD does not impute iniquity, And in whose spirit there is no deceit.

I acknowledged my sin to You, And my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD, ' And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.


Act 6 The Consequences RD 2 Sam. 12:8-12 / 14-23

A)This is something that we really need to see is that although forgiveness was granted – the Consequences of sin remained

B) The Child conceived in sin was going to die & there would be turmoil in David’s house the rest of his days

  1. Meyer One brief spell of passionate indulgence left his character blasted irretrievably; his peace vanished; & the foundations of his kingdom was weakened

C) God is quick to forgive but there are always consequences

  1. Reap what we Sow – Sow to the flesh reap Destruction

The Pronouncement is made – the sword will not depart from David’s house – Ahithophel would team up w/ Absalom – REVOLT

A) David’s own Children would be killed – wives taken and disgraced sexually

B) There is always a price to pay for sin!

C) David was fully forgiven but there were consequences –

D) The sin of adultery and Murder was Death! – God forgave David and showed him grace – but there still was a punishment

V. 14-25

The Baby dies!


Nathan said v.14 that David actions gave the enemies of the Lord an occasion to Blaspheme – What enemies Knew about this? SATAN

A) It has been my observation that the devil never tips his hand in temptation/ he shows only the Beauty / the thrill / the Ecstasy / the Fun

B) He never tells the heavy drinker – Tomorrow you will have a Hangover

& ultimately, you will ruin your life & your family

  1. He never tells the drug user this is the beginning of a long sorrowful dead end road

C) He never tells the thief you are going to get caught & locked up

  1. He doesn’t warn the Adulterer that Pregnancy is a real possibility and that contracting a STD is likely { LOOSE HIS FAMILY

D) When the sin is done & all the penalties of that sin are do the Devil is no where to be found -

Amazing to think that this unguarded moment led to so much pain