Sowing & Reaping Part 2 - Family

2 Cor 9:6 - 8


Intro We are Continuing our Study in 2 Cor – On Sundays we have camped out here in Ch.9 – Subject of sowing & Reaping /

A)Seed time & Harvest –4 Key Principles: 1st Time to sow – time to reap

Reap in DUE SEASON - In between is the season of waiting


B) Season where there isn’t much to see – no fruit to behold – but you know that God is working


C) 2nd Reap what is sownAfter it’s kind – what seeds you are sowing is going to be determined by what you are reaping


D) 3rd The Extent that you sow will determine the extent that you reap

1)   Sparingly or bountifully


E) 4th Where you sow is important – Hosea 8:7 sow to the wind – you will reap the whirlwind –

1)   Needs to be aware of the soil we are sowing into –


Last week we began discussing 3 soils that we as believers in JC should be Sowing in – 3 soils that are guaranteed to reap a good harvest

A)1st – Soil of the Kingdom of God – talked about Finances

     2nd – Soil of our kids – today – talk about Family

     3rd – Soil of Character – next week talk about Faith


B) If you don’t want to be guilty of sowing to the whirlwind - & reaping nothing commit yourself to sowing in these 3 areas – You will be blessed


C) Today talking about Sowing in the soil of your kids – Your family

1)   Financial experts – tells you that your greatest Physical asset is your home – That is what we want to talk about today – The Home


D) Not the physical dwelling place – Change / Move – The People inside it

    1) Building a godly Home -  Matt.7 – Foundation {Turn there

Matt 7:24-27 "Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock:  25 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. 

26 "But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand:  27 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall." 


Now in this Parable we have 2 houses / two builders / two results & one Storm –

A)The reason that I believe that the same storm hits both houses is because of the way Jesus Describes it – The same way for both v.25 & 27


B) See it doesn’t matter who you are You are going to go thru storms – Rains on the Just & the unjust alike –

1)   Christians just like unbelievers get Cancer / Christians …… get laid off

Christians …..have spouses who are unfaithful – rains on just …..


C) So the same storm comes in crashing against both houses/ But one falls and  the other stands – what is the Difference ?

1) Jesus said the wise Builder – who built on the Rock – is the one who hears God’s word & does it  [That is the Difference ]


In Prov 24:3,4  Solomon wrote  Through wisdom a house is built, & by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious & pleasant riches

A)In this passage Solomon was not referring to filling your home w/

     material possessions/ sofa's & tables !


B)Family life  isn't about what you possess it is about what you are  not about having the right things / but being the right person!   Repeat the verse


Look at these verbs :  Built =Founded{Set up 

1) established =  to set in order – Building Project  - foreman)


C)Filled =  Overflowing ;  speaks of  Satisfaction { Being Enriched

Translated :   " A home is built by wisdom ; its structure is  established by understanding its rooms are enriched by  Knowledge “

A)Wisdom = Knowledge applied   Applying God’s word to our lives


B)Understanding= Having insight /  In this context it would mean seeing things from the Lords perspective ! What would He DO?


C) Knowledge = Learning w/ perception / It is being teachable admitting that I don't have all the answers!  Willingness to hear!

    1) That is How the Christian home is founded:



Now with that in mind I want us to look at some things that the Bible says about – the Home – raising Kids – sowing in the Soil of Family

A)We could talk for weeks about this – [ we won’t – consider 4 things


B) 1st Sowing seeds of proper Priorities / 2nd Sowing …. Of love / 3rd Seeds of Hope / 4th Sowing seeds of Discipline


C) Start w/ sowing seeds of Proper Priorities Duet 6:4-9

4 "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one!   5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.



Here we see God’s mandate to His people [ The Curriculum of Life ] this is  what is to be the Our First Priority w/ our Kids – the #1 thing that we need to be teaching them

A) The LORD our God, the LORD is one!  Only One God – Can’t serve Two masters -  { Pull of the World / Sports / Work / Friends


B) We can have only One God in our Lives & He wants all of us -

5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.


C) Now Parents that should be seen not just Heard / seen in the way that we live our lives – JESUS IS THE CENTER – not a part – all

1)   Lives revolving around Him - 


D) How is your house different from their friends who are not saved –

 Church / Bible / Fine – needs to be More –  Central Focus



So first is the Priority of our Love for the Lord – 2nd is Priority of Love for His Word

6 "And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.


A) God wants His word to Permeate our lives & our homes – How ?


B) Well obviously this would include things like Family Devotions & coming to Church –

1) But often times we can have the tendency to compartmentalize our lives & our families – Church time / Devotion time / play time / work time


C) We separate the Spiritual times from the “ non spiritual times” don’t bug me the football game is on !!!


But I think what the Lord is really saying here is to find way to include his word into every aspect of your families life

You shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.

A)Where ever you go what ever you are doing – teach the Principles of the word of God


B) Talk w/ your kids about your decisions – why we do this / don’t that

C) One of the biggest mistakes that parents make – We don’t do that because we  are Christians – Do’s & Don’t

1) Instead of giving - Spiritual instruction


D) Here is the reason that we don’t watch those shows / go to those places – this is what God’s word say about that

1) Sharing The heart of God on why He advises against that


Listen carefully Our kids need to know that  sin is not bad because it is forbidden – But sin is forbidden because it’s bad

A)A loving Father forbids sin - warns against sin and is grieved by sin because He knows the effects it can have on us


B) So first we need to be sowing the seeds of Proper priorities – Love for the Lord & Love for His word  



2nd Sowing seeds of Love - Eph 5:1-2

Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. 2 And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.


In the late 1800’s A sobbing little girl stood near a small church / she had been turned away because she was told it was too crowded. “I can’t go to Sunday School,” she sobbed to the pastor as he walked by. Seeing her shabby, unkempt appearance, the pastor guessed the reason and, taking her by the hand, took her inside and found a place for her in the Sunday School class.

The child was so touched that she went to bed that night thinking of the children who have no place to worship Jesus.
Two years later, the Child died - and the parents  the kindhearted pastor, who had befriended their daughter, to handle the funeral arrangements.

The Little girl didn’t have much but she would carry w/ her a small ragged & worn little Red purse almost everywhere she went –


After her death they found in her little purse a total of 57 cents and a note scribbled in her own handwriting, which read, “This is to help build the little church bigger so MORE children can go to Sunday school.”

For two years she had saved for this offering of love. When the pastor tearfully read that note, he knew instantly what he would do. Carrying this note and the cracked, red purse  to the pulpit, he told the story of her unselfish love and devotion. He challenged his deacons to get busy and raise enough money for the larger building. But the story does not end there!

A newspaper learned of the story and published it. A Realtor who offered them a parcel of land worth many thousands read it. When told that the church could not pay that  much, he offered it for a payment of 57 CENTS. Church members made large contributions. Checks came from far and wide. Within five years the little girl’s gift had increased to $250,000.00 – a huge sum for that time.

It all started w/ a Seed of Love that was Planted by the Pastor – that grew in the heart of that little girl – That act of  love had paid large dividends.
A)If  you are in the city of Philadelphia, look up Temple Baptist Church, with a seating capacity of 3,300, and,


B) And a Sunday School building which ministers to 100’s of kids every week

1)   You will also find connected to that Church Temple University &  the Good Samaritan Hospital


C) And In one of the rooms of this building may be seen the picture of the sweet faced little girl whose 57 cents, so sacrificially saved,

1)made such remarkable history. Alongside of it is a portrait of her kind pastor, Dr. Russell H. Conwell,


D) Proof that Sowing a seed of Love can go a long way: Kids need to know that we love them !!!! Wife / Told her when I married her – tell her again


3) Sowing seeds of Hope - Jer 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

A)Do your kids know that verse applies to them? – Amy – Thyroid

Burnt / Asthma{ Something special


Danny is the host of a Christian talk show for a popular Christian radio station in his community

A)Danny is also a paraplegic & has been since birth !!!


B)Once when Danny was asked how he got into radio this is what he said 

1)  “It’s because someone handed me a light …”  The kind that lights a path towards God’s best.”


C)During junior high school, while Kids felt a certain degree of insecurity, he was FULL of  self-doubts.  While others worried about acne or what to wear to the school dance, he struggled with just getting in and out of classrooms that, in the 1960’s weren’t designed to accommodate wheelchairs.


He felt lonely and left out. Most of all, he felt like God could never use him to do anything significant.

That is, until the day his parents switched churches, and he entered Mr. Barton’s Sunday school class.

Mr. Barton had taught the junior high class at that church for years – which was  a good thing. It seemed no one else wanted the challenge of facing a rowdy bunch of preteens each Sunday.


But Mr. Barton not only loved junior high kids, he was also a specialist at shedding light on their paths.

One Sunday after the bell rang, as the kids began to run out and meet their parents, Mr. Barton called Danny’s name and asked him to stay behind.


“Danny, do you know why I call on you every week in class? He asked.

“Because I’m a good reader?” Danny asked. He’d already noticed that Mr. Barton asked him to read the scripture passage each week.

“You are a good reader … but it’s more than that.”

And then he switched on the light for Danny that changed his life. “It’s because you have such a great voice, Danny.” He said.  “You know … I wouldn’t be surprised if God ended up using your voice to serve Him someday. Ever thought about being a pastor or speaker or Christian DJ?”

Fifteen words, spoken in under seven seconds, changed the course of Danny’s life.

A)They became a shining path toward a special future – and they’re the reason he’s a radio talk show host today.


B) In Jeremiah 29:11 God gives us a wonderful promise we can pass down to our children.  “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord  - plans to give you a future and a hope.”


C) Mom and Dad, look for ways to light up your child’s future.

1) Help them see by your words and genuine praise that their unique gifts or talents are attributes God can use for His glory.


D) Our words go a Long way – Words are Powerful


Deut 30:19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;

A)The word Bless literally means to add weight to or to acknowledge the weightiness of something


B)The meaning comes from gold that is weighed out on scales.  The more weight added,  the more valuable.

1) So when we bless the our children, we’re adding “weight” to their words or person.


C) Do you know what the word curse means in the scriptures?

1) It’s used to describe a stream that has dried up to a muddy trickle because water has been “subtracted” from it.


D)From the first “curse” that fell upon Adam and Eve for their sin, you can see the idea of “subtraction” linked to it.

1) Their choice to disobey took away Eden and subtracted life from them as well.

What does this have to do with parenting? Everyday, we’ve got a choice set before us.

A)Whether we’re a parent or pastor. Accountant or welder. Husband or wife.

You have a Choice to Bless or to Curse


B) To add to your kids / brother or sister / or to Subtract all w/ your words

1)   Took $5 for every unkind word / gave $10 for ever kind word – end of a year Rich or Poor


A reporter once asked Andrew Carnegie the great entrepreneur of the previous generation why he hired 43 millionaires to work for him. Carnegie pointed out that those men were not millionaires when he hired them.

The reporter then asked, “How did you develop these men to become so valuable to you that you paid them so much money?”

Carnegie replied that people are developed the same way gold is mined. When gold is mined, several tons of dirt must be moved to get an ounce of gold; but you don’t go into the mine looking for dirt – you go in looking for gold!(5)

C) Can I encourage you today to Start looking  for the gold in your child, in your spouse to be mined .

1)   So the seed of Hope !!!


4) Sowing seeds of Discipline:

Prov 13:24 - He who spares his rod hates his son,  but he who loves him disciplines him promptly


A)Should we spank our Children: God says we need to Paddle our kids ?

4        He who spares his rod hates his son,    Heavy – not I love them to much to Discipline them – You don’t love them at all if you don’t


But he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Again note that: Not going to count to 3 / threaten / not going to give time out – PROMPTLY

B)Spare the rod we spoil the child !  Not a Command!!

1)  Discipline is a necessary part of God's tools in training children!


C) Heb.  Whom the Lord loves He disciplines 



In our Culture today – many don’t know that it is right & normal for a parent to discipline their Children

A)Many people have bought into a lie that was propagated by DR. Spock many yrs ago – that kids are basically good / not Bad

1)   We just need to let the goodness Blossom


C) Kids aren’t Bad – they just do bad things & they need to be educated not to do those Bad things – Goodness comes out


Problem is the Bible declares in sin my mother conceived me

A)The Bible says that from conception – we are depraved / we are born w/ a sin nature


B) We are not basically good people who just occasionally do Bad things but we are ROTTEN TO THE CORE


C) Those of you who are parents Know this : My own Kids I didn’t need to give them a lesson on how to Lie – came naturally

1)   I didn’t have to teach them how to be SELFISH or to throw TEMPER TANTRUMS – it was engrained in them


D) I did need to teach them / How to be good / the difference between right & wrong


But many parents in our society today have bought into this lie Kids are good – just do bad things : Result :

A)We are currently raising the most Rebellious / anarchist / and Violent Generation in the History of the US.


Ch.22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;

          The rod of correction will drive it far from him.

A)Foolishness is bound up – In bred in the Heart – of a Child – but the Rod of Correction will drive it from Him


CH 19:18 Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction.  NIV don’t be a willing participant in their destruction


B)Deal w/ them now – while there is hope – there comes a time older where you can’t discipline them anymore

1) Do it now while there is hope & don’t be a willing participant in their destruction


C) When you don’t  Discipline your kids / you are participating in their destruction – result of their Rebellion



Ch.23:13,14 Do not withhold correction from a child,

For if you beat(CHASTEN) him with a rod, he will not die. (Great!!!)

14       You shall beat (CHASTEN) him with a rod,

          And deliver his soul from hell.


A)The word hell here –dual meaning – can mean Literal Hell /  Your commitment to follow thru – save your child from Hell


B) But it can also mean – Incarceration – Kids are in bondage to guilt in their Soul – Soul becomes like a prison –

1)   Did you know many are prison today because wanted to be caught


C) The Guilt was so strong – that they wanted to be caught to deal w/ it


D) Spanking Brings a releasing of the Guilt – Their sin has been dealt w/



A)We hug / embrace / there is a restoration that takes place.

Now some of you have been sitting here listening to me today thinking – My house is already in Ruins – Storm hit – wrong Foundation

A)All I have done today is make you feel Condemned – because all you see around you is the Broken boards of poor Decisions


B) Take Hope: For in Acts 27Paul is on a Ship sailing for Rome – Paul warned the captain [ Word from God ]that they needed to stop – Dangerous ahead

1)   Paul’s words were  ignored – Sure enough the boat hit rough waters and was ship wrecked –


C) Paul told that crew to stay in the boat – and they would all make it to shore – They did on broken pieces of wood –


Listen your house may have fallen apart – Here to tell you that God is going to see you thru on  Broken pieces of wood – One piece at a time

A)Not glorious to come in on broken pieces of wood – You make it


B) He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it – God is not thru w/ your house

1)   You might come in on broken pieces but you are going  to come in – if you will lay down that foundation TODAY !!!!


C) Scripture tells us that when we are Faithless / He remains Faithful